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'Dear Abby' responds to Tampa couple upset about gay neighbors

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Jeanne Phillips, aka Dear Abby (Image courtesy Associated Press) Jeanne Phillips, aka Dear Abby (Image courtesy Associated Press)
TAMPA, FL (WFLA) -

Advice columnist Dear Abby's response to a letter signed "Unhappy in Tampa" is getting nationwide attention.

The couple, a man and woman, say they recently relocated to Florida, and moved into a new neighborhood. In the letter, they say there are two gay couples in the neighborhood, one male and one female.

The letter writer says she and her husband did not include the gay couples when it was their turn to host neighborhood events because "we do not approve of their lifestyle choices".

The letter writer says she and her husband used to live in a "conservative community". She says that after they excluded the gay couples from events, she and her husband were excluded from events and called bigots.

Dear Abby did not mince words in her response, saying that a person's sexuality is not a "lifestyle choice", and that gay people are born gay.

She went on to say: "I find it interesting that you are unwilling to reciprocate the hospitality of people who welcomed you and opened their homes to you, and yet you complain because you are receiving similar treatment."

Dear Abby ended her response by saying the couple has a chance to grow by interacting with people different than them, and they shouldn't "blow it".

To read Dear Abby's entire response, click here.

Dear Abby is written by Jeanne Phillips under the pen name of "Abigail Van Buren".  Her mother, Pauline Phillips, founded the advice column in 1956.

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